Years back at a friend`s wedding, one of the speakers said that whats important in marriage is not how compatible spouses are , but how they handle the differences between them. Many young christians rightfully spend long periods of time in courtship in order to learn each other. Many have been told that it helps to know the character of the person you are marrying, which is true. Much as this is important, after marriage many are surprised by how much they don`t know of the other person despite the long period of courtship. This is when compromise comes into play.
The willingness to give up some one`s happiness for the sake of the spouse or the relationship requires grace from God. Co existence between two individuals is only possible with agreement and this requires compromise. Amos 3:3 asks whether two can walk together unless they agree. Despite both being born again christians, spouses usually come from different upbringings, professions, tribes , cultures, etc all of which shape people differently. It`s good to understand that what tastes good to you may not be liked by your husband or the fact that your mum is a good story-teller doesn’t mean all women can tell stories…etc. Compromise makes marriages last ..till death separates the husband from the wife.