About ivanjosh

Life is like an adventure with many surprises, some of them exciting while others hurting. As we navigate the many unique paths in our journey on earth , each one of us desires that the best of events comes along . Unfortunately as most of us have discovered, this isn’t always the case . As we grow up we learn that co existing with fellow human beings and the rest of nature can only be enjoyable if we play our part of being loving, peaceful, helpful , content and patient . In doing so , we always hope that the rest will do the same though still this is not always the case. How we handle those who don`t is what makes us different from others. Ivan has grown up in many different ecological niches.A husband and a father, Ivan spent most of his life in Africa. The transition to North America has given him a different taste of climate, culture, friends and many more. One fact remains, the world is a beautiful place; God made it perfect for us to live in. As a Christian , Ivan shares his view of how to appreciate,celebrate and utilize the variety of pleasant experiences we encounter in life and how to handle the many complex real life challenges we face. As we read , we have the liberty to contribute through comments to the extent we fill comfortable.

“Secret” to happy living

Water run into my hair and trickled down my body. This feeling of warm water flowing over me as I listened to a worship song (singing along as well) was an interesting experience less than an hour ago.

I suddenly got reminded of one “secret” to happy living. Its not really a secret. Its always there but we don`t pay attention to it. If we decide that nothing else matters except the knowledge of our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ and doing His will, a feeling of fresh joy, fulfillment and happiness will come right away. If we remember that our life on earth is temporary, we shall not put emphasis on what earthly life has to offer. Suddenly the realization will come that our energy should be focused on fulfilling the will of God, rather than trying on our own to find solutions to the many challenges we face on earth. Please read 2nd Corinthians 4:16-18.

When we reach this point in life, that nothing on earth matters besides living for Jesus,  all the problems we face will be lower than us so that we over come and conquer them with ease. Then we shall ask ourselves why we had not yet realized this “secret” that was always before us.

My prayer today

Dear God, My prayer today is not for you to increase my material possessions or physical prosperity. No, its not for me to be promoted at  work nor is it for me to gain the highest academic achievements. My prayer today is not for my family to become rich or for my relatives to become famous. I am not praying for an expensive car or for a mansion. I know that peace is not about what we have. Some things money just can`t buy . Those things that can`t perish nor can thieves steal. Joy and love do not require fat bank accounts for one to get them, neither does gold and silver guarantee happiness. The brevity of earthly life is indication to the wise that we should focus on what assures us of eternal happiness, yet many times our desire for immediate gratification clouds our judgement and discernment of right from wrong. I pray today that you grant me the favour to know you and our Lord Jesus. I pray that your spirit shall guide each and everything I do. I pray that seeking you and doing your will shall be my source of joy and happiness. I pray the same for my family, relatives , friends and all human kind. In Jesus` name I pray Amen

What causes infidelity

Recently someone expressed regrets to something she did a fews years ago. Lets call her “Tracy” ( Not real name ). Tracy said that she cheated on her husband with a married man. In earlier years , Tracy had cherished their marriage and considered her self lucky to have a good husband.  Lets call him X .What then happened down the road that she could cheat on him?

I asked Tracy the same question and she gave me her response.  She was not receiving the same good treatment from X as she did before and the “emotional connection” between them had waned. He also constantly expressed anger over simple things which causes fear in her when around him. She finds it difficult to express her emotions and feelings to him which is also affecting their intimacy. Husbands are told in Ephesians  5: 25 to love their wives the way christ loved the church. Love  maintains a line of communication between spouses and comes along with many other good things.

Tracy did not tell me her role in the communication break down  with X. She had not yet even told him of the infidelity. Hopefully she will find courage to share that fact with him as they work towards healing/mending their relationship. However she said that she liked her encounter with the married man because of the special care he gave her ; he  made her feel valuable and provided a welcoming environment. I find that this is one of the main reasons for cheating; as a relationship struggles with problems, another seemingly “better” person shows up to solve at least the emotional issues. Even though X had a role to play in this infidelity, Tracy also had a contribution by deciding not to talk about it with him.

Tracy also  said that she constantly turned down X`s intimate requests and advances. I told her how this hurts spouses so much since they expect this need to be met by their partners. She seemed to be surprised by what I told her. However, in the conversation, I noted she did not have interest in X any more. She however continues to leave with  him and their children as the other man is married to someone else.

I shared with her ideas of how she can help to change all this. My prayers go to their relationship.

Unfaithfulness comes about due to many reasons; lack of communication, lack of trust, waning love and affection etc. Sometimes only one partner is the cause but in many other cases both partners contribute to it to varying extents. Praying together, forgiveness, talking about problems and supporting one another go along way to help married couples to go through tough times and remain faithful to each other and God.

Introducing Pleasantwords for kids and Pleasantwords for teenagers

All of us will agree  that children these days face challenges that are unique from those faced by children 20 years ago.

Raising a child in a Christian way is more challenging these days because of many factors; television, social media , peer pressure etc. With all this happening, who would not delight in having their children read pleasant words based on the scriptures in the Bible? Pleasant for kids and Pleasant for teenagers are here for that and both will appear as separate pages on the site.

“How did I get here?”

This is not an uncommon question for anyone who is going through tough times. You may be going through some seemingly irredeemable situation in your life. You reflect on the many opportunities you had to make the good decisions but the desire for immediate gratification led you to go with the wrong choice. Perhaps it was because of the decision to ignore the still small voice within you (1 Kings 19: 11 – 13) that reflects the inner guidance that God gives us. And do not get me wrong I am not blaming you today, but rather letting you know that you still have a chance! The look at your scars- physical or emotional reminds you of the times you struggled with making a good choice or choices. The scars either remind you of the conquer you had after a long battle or how circumstances went against you. Be aware of small repeated wrong decisions. Very few people make huge wrong decisions at once; such are outliers. Most individuals get in hurtful situations because of small repeated wrong decisions, which bring about a bad cumulative effect. But today as you ask yourself “How did I get here?” the Lord God is saying you still have a chance, regardless of how far down you are at the “deep end”; irrespective of your age. It`s time to forget what is behind and focus on what is ahead. (Phil 3:13). Will you allow God and our Lord Jesus to guide you?

The other perspective – Unconditional love

True believers come to understand that we as humans have many plans but what prevails is the purpose of the Lord ( Rd Prov 19:21). Many times we wonder why we haven`t yet received answers to our prayers. Some times certain peoples` relationship with God is negatively affected by prevailing circumstances; where by their love for God is conditional, depending on their acquisition of material things. Our life on earth is so limited that if you are really a believer, you cannot trade eternal happiness with momentary enjoyment. The Bible  urges us to set our minds on things above rather than earthly things (Colossians 3:2). With this knowledge you will not be affected by the negative attributes of comparing oneself to others such as jealousy, covetousness and so on.