Why me? – A common question

This week, I promised to talk about some topics that affect many people and I would like to start today.

Why me? I can`t claim to be an authority on this subject, but I know you will agree with me that by adulthood almost everyone has asked themselves this question some time in their life. May be an agonizing situation has happened and you think life is unfair. You are probably heartbroken by a recent failure or diagnosis. It may be that your children are not listening to you or your boss has grossly mis understood you and your job is at stake. Or probably you`ve applied to hundreds of jobs and even attended interviews but you aren`t getting an appointment. It could be that your future wife or husband is taking too long to come along, the list of possibilities is endless.

In John 14, Jesus promises the holy spirit who will be a counselor. The counselor reminds us of what Jesus said. Jesus added that He lives us with peace ( vs 27) and that we should not let our hearts be troubled. I believe Jesus knew that troubling moments would come. In Luke 18 Jesus tells a parable of a persistent widow illustrating that we should not give up in prayer. This is a powerful parable , please find time to read it ( Luke 18: 1-8).

Let`s also remember to keep rejoicing in all circumstances. We read in Habakkuk a message about rejoicing though there may be no thriving in some aspects of our lives at the moment ( Chap 3 : 17- 18). When we rejoice amidst  troubles we keep our hopes high and demonstrate that the Lord we know is stronger than every problem and can solve them all.

As I conclude in Mathew 7: 7-12 Jesus informs us to ask and it will be given unto us.

As believers we should remember that what is seen is temporary in contrast to what is unseen which exists forever ( 2 Cor 4:18). Our eyes should be fixed on what is unseen. The problems faced on earth are momentary when compared to the eternal life we  hope to get through Jesus.

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Trust in fellow man?

Over the years many of us have learnt that trusting in fellow men brings disappointments. Yet after a series of disappointments, we keep on doing the same. The Bible informs us in Jeremiah 17: 5-8 that they that trust in man are cursed adding on that they will not see prosperity when it comes. Personally , the most successful moments of my life have been when I have had a strong relationship with God. I am not trying to say that I am the most righteous person and neither am I telling every one to distrust others. But what am saying is that true happiness comes from God and knowing our Lord Jesus. The mentioned chapter in Jeremiah informs us that the man who trusts in God is blessed and never fails to bear fruit.

Do you have problems with tithing?

Read this as a humble message from someone who loves and cares, not one who judges. It`s what the Lord has put upon my heart to share.

Many born again Christians encounter problems with tithing. It`s something that is not uncommon, hurting and “eating” up the inside of someone who knows they are supposed to do so but fail for one reason or another.Many diligently spare time immediately after their pay day and carefully calculate the tenth but find that they still cant tithe. Yes some Christians may disregard tithing completely or for a period; today am not talking about these. But I am referring to those who set aside time to calculate the tithe each time a pay slip or cheque comes in, only to find themselves failing to tithe.

The main reason for this is failure to have a long term plan for tithing- In other words when we make our long term plans, our ability to tithe while carrying out those plans must be considered. The examples given below will make this clear. If we feel that tithing will be hampered while executing those plans, then we have to change them. A good number of people are good at making monthly plans for tithing although some do not follow through with the tithing. This shows that short term plans alone are not good enough. All of us should have the long term plans for tithing.   Consider the following useful tips;

Planning to tithe doesn`t only start before you spend any money from your pay slip.

  • Pray for God`s wisdom concerning this. Prayer (Mathew 21:22)
  • Start planning before buying a car. Ask you self “after tithing, will I have enough money to fuel the car and service it?” Not – “will there be enough money for tithing after the car expenses?”  If the answer is no to the previous question, then you probably need a cheaper car or you are not yet ready to own a car currently . If you obtained a loan, will the monthly loan payment be enough after the tithe? If you start with buying the car before asking your self those questions ,you increase your chances of not tithing  because the monthly expenses might go beyond your income.
  • Before renting an apartment or acquiring a loan for a house, find out if  you will be able to tithe before your monthly expenses on the house. You probably need a cheaper house or apartment. Don`t first acquire an apartment or house  and think about tithing later. Before starting to build your house, will you faithfully tithe each month during the building project? Or is this going to hamper the tithing? If so put  off the building for some time.
  • Before choosing a school or course of education , will you be able to tithe and  pay the tuition? Ask your self if you probably need a cheaper school. Don`t first get an expensive school and convince yourself that you will tithe anyway. This is the trap many have fallen into.
  • In summary, think about tithing before considering not only your monthly budget but also your long term projects. Change your projects if you will not be able to tithe and fulfill them, go for cheaper alternatives or abandon them if they will hamper tithing.

The truth is if you don`t consider all those and the like before taking them up, you might be pressured into thinking they are more important than tithing when funds aren’t enough.

May God bless you

Confidence a midst troubles (continued)

God wants us to trust Him despite all situations. Nothing can separate us from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus ( Romans 8: 37-39).

Trials and temptations happen so frequently that instead of trying the futile attempt of running away from them, adopting an attitude of effectively dealing with them is better. Sometimes when we face trials and some one comes to strengthen us, within us we say “its because its not happening to you.” but we can be positive about our prevailing situation if we think of two things:

  •    The high priest we have ( Our Lord Jesus) empathizes with our weaknesses and was also tempted yet He did not sin. ( Rd Hebrews 4: 15). He understands what we are going through and will redeem us. In Hebrews 4 :16, we are urged to confidently approach the throne of God so that we receive mercy and help when we are in need.
  •    The testing of our faith yields perseverance which in turn brings about completeness and maturity.

I pray that the good Lord leads you safely from the situation you are going through and may His name be glorified,

Confidence a midst troubles

Some time around the beginning of of the year 2011 while moving in a small village in the southern part of Africa I met a sister in the Lord with a stab wound on her face; in the last months of the previous year, there had been three robberies in my neighbourhood; still around the same time one of the families in the small village had two of their children murdered on separate occasions.

Friends we had known for some time had lost their jobs; some christian couples have adulterous spouses; accidents happen and people are either hurt or die; you probably are not sure how you are going to pay your bills or cater for your children`s tuition; you are not being promoted at your job and as if that`s not enough, the people you train are promoted instead; You`ve waited so long for a marriage partner but haven’t been successful yet; Up to now you are still waiting for your healing; the list is endless.

Many- including some Christians- thus say that faith in our Lord is difficult to maintain when faced with such situations. The resulting discouragement leads to dangerous compromise. We then end up with a bunch of many people going for Sunday prayers and even midweek devotions but lacking confidence in God. The temptation then is to trust in other things e.g. power, people, money which leads to further failure. ( Psalm 20:7).

God wants us to trust Him despite all situations. Nothing can separate us from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus ( Romans 8: 37-39).

(To be continued next week)

Persistent prayer provides answers

One time a lady friend of ours said ” I know my husband, I will say this over and over again until he gets tired of hearing it; then he will buy it”. She had wanted an item bought for their house but her husband kept putting it off. But she knew what to do to have it bought. In Luke 18: 1-8, Jesus tells a parable about a persistent widow who kept asking for justice from a judge. After several attempts , the judge granted the lady her wishes. After the parable, Jesus asks if God will keep putting off His chosen ones who cry out to Him day and night. He adds on that God will see that they get justice, quickly.

Let`s not grow weary, persistent prayer avails answers.

Blamed for something you did not do, how do you react?


We all want a life full of peace and no strife , hurting , discords or anything in the same category. Unfortunately as most of us grow up we find that this isn’t always the case . One of the most hurting occurrences every one will very likely face many times in their life is being blamed for something they did not do; or being wrongly perceived or judged. The potential consequences of the blame range from being trivial in some cases to serious in others. This depends on what the blame is and the relationship you have with the person doing so. But whatever the consequence , whether trivial or serious no one wants to be held responsible for  something they did not do. So what does one do in this case?

I know many of you have many interesting and good answers to this and am eager to read them. Please feel free to share them if its ok with you . My discussion today is what not to do in such instances. How we respond to those who have misjudged us whether friends or relatives, strangers or otherwise has an important part to play in the state of our internal peace. Almost every human being has the ability to talk back in a raised voice and to exhibit aggression whether active or passive, but our strength is judged by our ability to remain loving , peaceful and calm in such situations. I know it is easier said than done, but getting along with folks requires a willingness to hurt without revenge or fighting back.